The couples who continue growing expand their curiosity. One of the greatest dangers to a long relationship is the quiet belief that we already know everything about one another. We finish each other’s sentences, anticipate each other’s reactions, assume...
One of the beautiful things that happens when couples begin thinking in neighborhoods is that they become much more intentional about where they are. Imagine your partner has invited you into one of their Precious Neighborhoods. Perhaps it is the neighborhood of...
One of the reasons I continue to love the metaphor of neighborhoods is that it reminds me of the beautiful complexity of every human being. Each of us has within us an expanding world that is made up of many different neighborhoods. Some neighborhoods hold our...
When I guide a couple, we begin by talking about their dreams and aspirations. We then distinguish between the dance of survival and the dance of life in connection. and we establish the bridge between them. Then, in my notebook, I draw two circles. One circle...
I have a story I want to tell from my childhood. A dear friend of my parents came to spend Shabbat with us. He was an activist, deeply committed to helping bring peace to a painful conflict in the world. As we sat around the table, he began speaking about all that was...
