When we created The Art of Elderhood course, my dear friend Paul Browde said something that has stayed with me deeply. He observed that in relationships, we often forget. We forget the miracle of the person sitting across from us. We forget their preciousness. We...
People sometimes smile when they hear me say that I had thirty husbands. The truth is, I only had one husband. His name was Yumi. And over the course of our life together, I came to realize that I had loved many different versions of him. Every time Yumi grew,...
Recently, I was reflecting on a concept from Martin Buber that has become increasingly important to me throughout my life. There are two ways we can meet another person. We can meet them as an “it.” Or we can meet them as a “thou.” At first,...
“I have never done SOLO before.” I say that to a friend. Indeed, as I am walking step by step into my new Solo life journey, without my beloved Yumi at my side, I thought walking Solo was new to me. But now, in August of 2023, and looking back, I am...
“I don’t yet know who I am today.” It is May of 2023. I am talking with my son Yigal as we take a long walk in the rain together. “I was Hedyumi-Yumihedy for such a long while, I am needing to be a redefined me.” With my beloved soulmate Yumi leaving this realm, my...
A Visit to the Cafe On Sunday morning, March 12, 2023, the seventh Sunday since my beloved Yumi, the love of my life, took his last soft breath and crossed over to the next dimension, I decided to visit the Bluestone Lane Café. I chose this café because it is where...
