Recommended Reading List for Couples

(alphabetical by author’s last name)

• Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners, by Deborah Anapol
• Between Man and Man, by Martin Buber
• I and Thou, by Martin Buber
• The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman
• I Hate The Man I Love: A Conscious Relationship is Your Key to Success, by Joan E. Childs LCSW
• The Places that Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times, by Pema Chodron
• When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, by Pema Chodron
• Appreciative Inquiry: A Positive Revolution in Change, by David Cooperrrider
• The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families, by Stephen R. Covey
• The River, the Kettle and the Bird: A Torah Guide to a Successful Marriage, by Aharon Feldman
• Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love, by Helen Fisher
• The Right Questions, by Debbie Ford
• The Art of Loving, by Erich Fromm
• Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships, by Daniel Goleman
• Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last, by John Gottman
• Conscious Living: Finding Joy in the Real World, by Gay Hendricks
• Getting the Love You Want, A Guide for Couples, by Harville Hendrix
• Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved, by Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt
• Dialogue: The Art of Thinking Together, by William Isaacs
• Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, by Sue Johnson
• Appreciative Living:: The Principles of Appreciative Inquiry in Daily Life, by Jacqueline Bascobert Kelm
• A General Theory of Love, by T. Lewis, F. Amini, and R. Lannon
• Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking, by Patricia Love
• Can Love Last? The Fate of Romance over Time, by Stephen A. Mitchell
• Geting the Sex You Want: A New Way to Communicate to Have Better Sex, by Tammy Nelson
• The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth, by M. Scott Peck
• Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, by Esther Perel
• Born for Love: Why Empathy is Essential—and Endangered, by Bruce Perry
• Take the Dimness of My Soul Away: Healing After a Loved One’s Suicide, by William Ritter
• A Heart as Wide as the World: Stories on the Path of Lovingkindness, by Sharon Salzberg
• Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness, by Sharon Salzberg
• Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection, by Sharon Salzberg
• Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment, by Martin Seligman
• Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life, by Martin Seligman
• Pocket Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology: An Integrative Handbook of the Mind, by Daniel Siegel
• Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation, by Daniel Siegel
• Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy, by Marion Solomon
• Conversations Worth Having: Using Appreciative Inquiry to Fuel Productive and Meaningful Engagement, by Jacqueline Stavros
• The Argument Culture: Stopping America’s War of Words, by Deborah Tannen
• The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation, by Thich Nhat Hanh
• No Future Without Forgiveness, by Desmond Tutu
• Turning to One Another: Simple Conversations to Restore Hope to the Future, by Margaret Wheatley