Hedy’s Blog
The Turtle and the Hail Storm
Couples universally dance a classic “survival dance”. You may identify when you read this fable of the “turtle and the hailstorm.” However, with steady and regular crossing of the bridge, looking into each other’s faces with new eyes, the reactive survival dance dissolves, and makes room for what relational neurobiologist Daniel Siegel calls “the flow of FACES”, a system that is Flexible, Adaptive, Coherent, Energized and Stable…
The Gratitude Factor
A life in connection is a life of appreciation. Gratitude is a very important relationship skill that must be strengthened daily. Make a practice of saying a deep inner “thank you” every hour of the day. And carve out a sacred moment of gratitude with your partner. Say: “What I am most grateful for in having you in my life is …..”
Is Marriage a Noun or a Verb?
On April 13, 1965, Yumi and I got married.
In this picture, we are on our way to our honeymoon in Hong Kong.
We are now in our 55th year of marriage, and what have we learned?…
Coping Versus Living
I learned the distinction between Coping and Living from my mother Miri Muszkal (may her memory be a blessing). Someone in our weekly Club Memory poetry group (now done on the phone) said to me: “Hedy, you are so positive.” And I said: “I am thanking my mother for it. She taught me to live instead of cope.”
So That Our Souls can Catch Up With Us!
In this significant time of not-knowingness, I wanted to post some thoughts and resources that have made a nourishing difference for me, in the hopes that they in turn might be helpful and nourishing for you…
What if you had a Reset Button? Two Secrets About Happiness
“You have a wonderful happiness re-set button,” a friend told me when I described to her how high my spirits are in our new life…