Hedy’s Blog
There Is Always More to Discover: Why Curiosity Never Grows Old
The couples who continue growing expand their curiosity. One of the greatest dangers to a long relationship is the quiet belief that we already know everything about one another. We finish each other's sentences, anticipate each other's reactions, assume we already know what the other person...
Don’t Wander Into the Neighborhood Next Door
One of the beautiful things that happens when couples begin thinking in neighborhoods is that they become much more intentional about where they are. Imagine your partner has invited you into one of their Precious Neighborhoods. Perhaps it is the neighborhood of music, or gardening, or...
Not All Neighborhoods Are Alike
One of the reasons I continue to love the metaphor of neighborhoods is that it reminds me of the beautiful complexity of every human being. Each of us has within us an expanding world that is made up of many different neighborhoods. Some neighborhoods hold our happiest memories, some hold...
The Greatest Journey You’ll Ever Take Is Across the Bridge to Your Partner’s World
When I guide a couple, we begin by talking about their dreams and aspirations. We then distinguish between the dance of survival and the dance of life in connection. and we establish the bridge between them. Then, in my notebook, I draw two circles. One circle represents one partner. The other...
Why We Begin with Possibility, Not Problems
I have a story I want to tell from my childhood. A dear friend of my parents came to spend Shabbat with us. He was an activist, deeply committed to helping bring peace to a painful conflict in the world. As we sat around the table, he began speaking about all that was difficult. The suffering. The...
The Practice of Remembering the Miracle
When we created The Art of Elderhood course, my dear friend Paul Browde said something that has stayed with me deeply. He observed that in relationships, we often forget. We forget the miracle of the person sitting across from us. We forget their preciousness. We forget what their presence means...