Hedy’s Blog
Don’t Wander Into the Neighborhood Next Door
One of the beautiful things that happens when couples begin thinking in neighborhoods is that they become much more intentional about where they are. Imagine your partner has invited you into one of their Precious Neighborhoods. Perhaps it is the neighborhood of music, or gardening, or...
Not All Neighborhoods Are Alike
One of the reasons I continue to love the metaphor of neighborhoods is that it reminds me of the beautiful complexity of every human being. Each of us has within us an expanding world that is made up of many different neighborhoods. Some neighborhoods hold our happiest memories, some hold...
The Greatest Journey You’ll Ever Take Is Across the Bridge to Your Partner’s World
When I guide a couple, we begin by talking about their dreams and aspirations. We then distinguish between the dance of survival and the dance of life in connection. and we establish the bridge between them. Then, in my notebook, I draw two circles. One circle represents one partner. The other...
Why We Begin with Possibility, Not Problems
I have a story I want to tell from my childhood. A dear friend of my parents came to spend Shabbat with us. He was an activist, deeply committed to helping bring peace to a painful conflict in the world. As we sat around the table, he began speaking about all that was difficult. The suffering. The...
The Practice of Remembering the Miracle
When we created The Art of Elderhood course, my dear friend Paul Browde said something that has stayed with me deeply. He observed that in relationships, we often forget. We forget the miracle of the person sitting across from us. We forget their preciousness. We forget what their presence means...
The Story Stays the Same. We Don’t.
"If you've heard this story before, don't stop me because I would like to hear it again." I love that quote from Groucho Marx. People sometimes apologize for telling a story more than once. They assume that if a story has already been told, it has served its purpose. But I have found the opposite...