Hedy’s Blog
100 Ways to Love Your Man
“It’s another one of the ways for me to love my man,” I said to the eye doctor.
Yumi and I went to see the eye doctor because Yumi complained about having great pain in his right eye. Turns out his eye was very dry because it doesn’t close well. The doctor described a few surgical options, but did not feel ready to perform a surgical intervention.
He turned to me and asked: “Can you take on putting ointment in his eye a few times a day?” I said very naturally: “It’s another one of the ways for me to love my man!” He started to laugh, and said: “You should write the book One Hundred Ways to Love your Man.” We all laughed…
What if America Were a Couple?
“Stop!” I say to the couple.
My hand comes down between them. I say it strongly. I say it decisively. I say it emphatically…
The True Encounter Above the Courage Line
I’d written to members of my community: “As ‘Bridge Builders’ our task, now more then ever, is to support each other in shaping a world where the relational space is safe and sacred, where we honor the ‘Other,’ and where together we create the conditions for the Encounter.”
“What is the Encounter?” asked my friend Marylin after she read my “Bridge Builders” message…
The Ten Commandments for a Committed, Conscious, Loving Relationship
Yumi and I have discovered the rightness of these ten commandments in the “living laboratory” of our marriage and are honored to share them with you…
The Freedom of Getting off the Wheel
“On Tuesday I got off the wheel” is the last line of a poem by Mark Nepo titled Thinking like a Butterfly. It was given to me by a friend after I told her the following story.
Eleven years ago, a TV series was shown on Israeli TV. It was called Couples Therapy. It followed three “grey-haired” couples therapists, each employing their own method, while working with a couple. There were seven episodes following the therapists over the course of their journey with the couple. I was one of the grey-haired couples therapists…
Bridging the Gap With the “Third Option”
“Help us!” says one of the sisters to my friend Penny following the 2016 election.
“The conflictual division that has occurred since the elections has devastated our family emotionally,” says one of eight sisters in a family where there is a gap in the middle; four sisters voted for Hillary Clinton, and four sisters voted for Donald Trump.
When Penny tells me that she will go and help them, I say to her:“You know Penny, I feel that I was born to do just that!” Indeed I feel that I was born in the middle of a World War with a calling to assist people in bridging the gap…