Hedy’s Blog
The Ten Commandments for a Committed, Conscious, Loving Relationship
Yumi and I have discovered the rightness of these ten commandments in the “living laboratory” of our marriage and are honored to share them with you…
The Freedom of Getting off the Wheel
“On Tuesday I got off the wheel” is the last line of a poem by Mark Nepo titled Thinking like a Butterfly. It was given to me by a friend after I told her the following story.
Eleven years ago, a TV series was shown on Israeli TV. It was called Couples Therapy. It followed three “grey-haired” couples therapists, each employing their own method, while working with a couple. There were seven episodes following the therapists over the course of their journey with the couple. I was one of the grey-haired couples therapists…
Bridging the Gap With the “Third Option”
“Help us!” says one of the sisters to my friend Penny following the 2016 election.
“The conflictual division that has occurred since the elections has devastated our family emotionally,” says one of eight sisters in a family where there is a gap in the middle; four sisters voted for Hillary Clinton, and four sisters voted for Donald Trump.
When Penny tells me that she will go and help them, I say to her:“You know Penny, I feel that I was born to do just that!” Indeed I feel that I was born in the middle of a World War with a calling to assist people in bridging the gap…
The Circular Learning Model
Most often we think of learning as a linear process. But there is another way to visualize learning. It is the Circular Learning model.
According to the Circular Learning model we do not learn in a linear fashion, but rather in increasingly larger and larger circles. However, before entering a larger circle, we need to close the smaller one. We learn, we understand as much as we do, we celebrate what we have learned. We graduate. Only then can we step into the next circle, with more maturity and more mastery…
What is Your Wildest Dream for Your Relationship?
“What is your Wildest Dream for your relationship?” It’s an important question that I ask couples, as they settle into the Couple’s Journey Intensive with me…
Humankind…Be Both!
How long does it take for 3000 Muslims and Jews to cross the bridge to each other and unify? It takes less than one hour!!!
How did this miracle occur? It happened because 3000 people, people who often are on very different sides politically, came together and filled their relational space with beauty…