A Time for Creative Incubation

A Time for Creative Incubation

“My husband isn’t ill. Humanity is ill.”  The year is 1942. The place is Nice in the South of France. These words were spoken by my mother. She and my father were in hiding in a cellar with 5 other Jewish people. They found out that the Nazis were coming into Nice. My...
The Turtle and the Hail Storm

The Turtle and the Hail Storm

Couples have a universal survival dance where one person’s energy gets maximized and very big. And the other person’s energy gets really minimized and constricted. And there’s a beautiful story about the the turtle and the hailstorm which I’ll...
The Gratitude Factor

The Gratitude Factor

A life in connection is a life of appreciation. Gratitude is a very important relationship skill that must be strengthened daily. Make a practice of saying a deep inner “thank you” every hour of the day. And carve out a sacred moment of gratitude with your...
Is Marriage a Noun or a Verb?

Is Marriage a Noun or a Verb?

On April 13, 1965, Yumi and I got married. In this picture, we are on our way to our honeymoon in Hong Kong. We are now in our 55th year of marriage, and what have we learned? One core learning for us has been that in April 1965 we were not the “perfect couple” coming...
Coping Versus Living

Coping Versus Living

I learned the distinction between Coping and Living from my mother Miri Muszkal (may her memory be a blessing). Someone in our weekly Club Memory poetry group (now done on the phone) said to me: “Hedy, you are so positive.” And I said: “I am thanking my mother for it....