As soon as there is a big trauma, because we suffer each in our own way and often incompatibly, we suffer incompatibly. We are in our survival dance. Each one of us surviving in the relationship because we don’t know how to welcome each other inside of the depth...
In our life together, there have been many challenging times. One of the most difficult for me occurred when Yumi and I faced together the adventure of Yumi’s heart attack and quadruple bypass operation. Each time destiny gave us a life and death challenge, we have...
“My husband isn’t ill. Humanity is ill.” The year is 1942. The place is Nice in the South of France. These words were spoken by my mother. She and my father were in hiding in a cellar with 5 other Jewish people. They found out that the Nazis were coming into Nice. My...
Couples have a universal survival dance where one person’s energy gets maximized and very big. And the other person’s energy gets really minimized and constricted. And there’s a beautiful story about the the turtle and the hailstorm which I’ll...
A life in connection is a life of appreciation. Gratitude is a very important relationship skill that must be strengthened daily. Make a practice of saying a deep inner “thank you” every hour of the day. And carve out a sacred moment of gratitude with your...
On April 13, 1965, Yumi and I got married. In this picture, we are on our way to our honeymoon in Hong Kong. We are now in our 55th year of marriage, and what have we learned? One core learning for us has been that in April 1965 we were not the “perfect couple” coming...
